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Sympathy - Charity - Compassion - EqualityThe Four State of Mind

Veröffentlicht am 01.04.2016


'But didn't you order a curry, Sean?' 'Yes, I did, but you know when I return the LokLak she brought me now, she will have the money for this dish deducted from her salary.' Völlig irritiert hakten wir hier nochmals nach, wurden von dem zweiunddreissig jährigen Kmher-Mann daraufhin nochmals geblockt und gaben dann auf, unseren 'Der Kunde ist König-Ansatz' in West-Kambodscha durchzusetzen.
Abschliessend sei gesagt, wir haben dann unser feines Kokos-Amok-Curry ihm rübergeschoben, denn es war wohl das erste Mal überhaupt, dass er mit Frau und Kindern seinen '24h Shop' schloss und in einem internationalen Restaurant mit Tischdecken und Servietten ass, die kleine Tochter bestellte prompt auch Schokoladen-Mousse als Hauptgang und wir wollten, dass die Familie dieses Abendessen genoss. Denn der Tag war perfekt gewesen. Wir hatten seine Gross-Familie auf dem Land besucht und in einem der lustigen Häusern auf Stelzen am Boden sitzend lecker Zmittag gegessen, einen buddhistischen Tempel auf einem Hügel inmitten von Flachland besucht und viele Büffel in den Reisfeldern schwadern gesehen.
Und erst 10 weitere Tage im Buddhismus lebend und nach diversen Fast-Auto-Unfällen in ländlichen Teilen von Kambodscha, Thailand und Bangkok in denen gar niemand hupte, um sein Recht einzufordern und seine Aggressionen auszudrücken, kommen mir die vier State of Mind, welche der Führer im schönen Angkor Wat uns aus der buddhistischen Lehre verkündete, wieder in den Sinn: Sympathy, Charity, Compassion/Mitgefühl und Equality/Gleichbehandlung. 

In dieser Nahöstlichen Kultur ist es selbstverständlich, dass man sich zurücknimmt, damit es dem Gegenüber besser geht, auch wenn dies bedeutet, dass man selber dann auf etwas verzichtet. Fasziniert und inspiriert werde ich diese wertvolle Lehre nun nach Zürich heimtragen und buddhistisch lächeln, wenn ich bald wohl das erste Mal auf der Strasse angehupt werde...

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We really could not believe that Sean did not insist on having his Coconut Curry served to him as he ordered it in the Italian / Khmer restaurant in Siem Reap, Cambodia. We invited him and his lovely wife and little kids to the restaurant after a wonderful day we had spent altogether in his home-village in remote Cambodia. I have met Seat 2009 when he was my Tuktuk-driver for the first time, paid him then Englis lessons, later on organised also an English Course by british Tom in his home-village (details on NGO-Link), had maintained the relationship over all those years and was close to tears seeing him pick us up at the airport by his own car proving he has worked his way out of poverty.

So, that day, he had decided to close his shop to spend a day with us, visiting his lovely family in a village and was then eager to get back at a good time to open his shop again, so we almost did not dare to ask him out for dinner on our car ride home through remote Cambodia with dry rice fields, water buffalos and of course many motorbikes & tuktuks. Even happier we were when he & his wife Dorn accepted the dinner invite and were ordering Pizza for starter for all showing our hosts a bit of our Western food. 

'You know I can not return the unwanted food, as it will be deducted from her salary', he explained to us more than once why he did not insist on getting the food he ordered. It was even more astonishing as we knew that he will not be able to get that food tomorrow as tomorrow he will eat in the little corner of his shop on the floor again and it will be some rice and whenever a customer would want gasoline or a coke or some washing-powder or some candies or some chips, he would get up and bring it to the mostly on the motorbike sitting client. So here he was this proud 32year old Khmer man maybe for the first time in a restaurant with chairs and napkins and he was content to eat what he did not order. After another try of convincing him we could also order an additional curry for him, we gave up and decided to give him our plate of delicious fish-curry in a palm-leave.

Only 2 weeks later and having observed the traditions in rural Thailand, Cambodia as well as busy Bangkok, I realize the ancient traditions of 'Sympathy - Charity - Compassion - Equality' that our guide explained to us in ancient Angkor Wat on the second level of this astonishing over 1000years old temple were the reason of Seans behaviour and make me admire him for his modesty. It's also those four buddhist states of mind that make no car horn there in the streets. So I will now try my best to embed them in my Swiss life and just smile when soon I will hear a car horn on the road or a stressed reaction comes my way.

Herzliche Grüsse / Kind regards

Alexandra Fingerhuth-von Muralt